http://plateofwander.com/?p=627 Eating so you don't have to. Wed, 01 Sep 2010 04:35:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://plateofwander.com/?p=627&cpage=1#comment-2465 Bob Sat, 30 Jan 2010 00:57:41 +0000 http://plateofwander.com/?p=627#comment-2465 I hope things have changed much better for you now , or at least you can more used to it I hope things have changed much better for you now , or at least you can more used to it

]]> http://plateofwander.com/?p=627&cpage=1#comment-332 Gerald Wed, 03 Dec 2008 22:02:39 +0000 http://plateofwander.com/?p=627#comment-332 Well, this really has been getting to you... As a Central European, I'm torn between joking that maybe you just can't take the truth, and thinking that it's only too true. So, guess how it goes: It's a medium-ish university out in the province. Not too many foreigners, but quite a few. Last evening, I read your post, went out, went past one of the cafeterias, ... and there we go again: "好帅", "lovely." Lovely? Really? What the...? Admittedly, though being a guy I'm not used to comments about my looks, I may have it a little easier: I meet mainly just students, and rarely get asked for my phone number. Certainly not the way you are. So, I've become rather adept at the art of laughing out loud, shaking my head, and going on. Which is probably misunderstood badly. Yet, if it's someone I'd care about, I could clarify. Most of the time, it's random people who just react the way they have learnt to. So, I can learn to "go native," I can remain in my own pattern of reaction and dislike it, or I can take it in stride, realizing it's just how Chinese react to foreigners (and in particular, to supposedly good-looking ones). The people I really care about talk to me a lot more, and not usually about my looks anymore. Otherwise, I just imagine the Chinese somewhere in rather rural places I've been and fitted in... Well, this really has been getting to you… As a Central European, I’m torn between joking that maybe you just can’t take the truth, and thinking that it’s only too true.
So, guess how it goes:
It’s a medium-ish university out in the province. Not too many foreigners, but quite a few. Last evening, I read your post, went out, went past one of the cafeterias, … and there we go again: “好帅”, “lovely.” Lovely? Really? What the…?
Admittedly, though being a guy I’m not used to comments about my looks, I may have it a little easier: I meet mainly just students, and rarely get asked for my phone number. Certainly not the way you are. So, I’ve become rather adept at the art of laughing out loud, shaking my head, and going on. Which is probably misunderstood badly. Yet, if it’s someone I’d care about, I could clarify. Most of the time, it’s random people who just react the way they have learnt to. So, I can learn to “go native,” I can remain in my own pattern of reaction and dislike it, or I can take it in stride, realizing it’s just how Chinese react to foreigners (and in particular, to supposedly good-looking ones). The people I really care about talk to me a lot more, and not usually about my looks anymore. Otherwise, I just imagine the Chinese somewhere in rather rural places I’ve been and fitted in…

]]> http://plateofwander.com/?p=627&cpage=1#comment-328 Dad Wed, 03 Dec 2008 15:38:55 +0000 http://plateofwander.com/?p=627#comment-328 I raised you right in the wrong world. Somehow you need to get to the point where it doesn't bother you so much because the people who say things mean little to you. Only hear the people that speak your "values language". Oh, man, did I just coin a new term? Imminent media fame is just around the corner... Great post girlie! When you're a famous author you can host a show on MSNBC and/or NPR and rail at all the driveway-puddle people in the world. I raised you right in the wrong world. Somehow you need to get to the point where it doesn’t bother you so much because the people who say things mean little to you. Only hear the people that speak your “values language”. Oh, man, did I just coin a new term? Imminent media fame is just around the corner… Great post girlie! When you’re a famous author you can host a show on MSNBC and/or NPR and rail at all the driveway-puddle people in the world.

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